I was too much confused ‘how can I define love’? I came across a beautiful sentence this morning by Wayn Dyer “Love is the ability and willingness to allow those that you care for to be what they choose for themselves without any insistence that they satisfy you“.
Its true nah? In fact I loved it!!
I was stuck in my life, in very complicated point. There were a lot of helping hands around me… Too much of love & care… I was actually left alone…
Some of my good old acquaintance came to me with sympathy/empathy/love and all… But still wasn’t able to choose the correct one. Who will be right? Who will be the one who has got love/care for me? Who is just trying to take advantage of the situation.
One guy, came to me… Told me ” dear, I love you so much. I haven’t felt this kind of intimacy towards anyone. You’re the first person & may be the last one too.But dear, I can only love you…” Well, I couldn’t get the correct meaning of it. But later on I understood that he made everything clear. 
Another wellwisher of mine, came to me: “Listen, I cant see you like this. You used to be a person who had all colours in your life. Who used to live evry moment of your life. Who was so enthusiastic about life. And these made me fall for you. You’re one lady whom I loved,with whom I wanted to share my life with. So please cheer up! Life is to Enjoy. Set Targets. Acheive great heights. You’re meant for that dear. I care for you. But I’m afraid I cant invite you to my life. When you were not sure about spending your life with me, I made my Targets. I’ll be alone, will not marry. But will love you.” I must say, I was really stunned. What do I say? I just smiled. That was the best thing I could do, i guess.
There came another soul. He was my friend’s boyfriend. Thats how we became intimate. Now they broke up. He was so intimately in love with her that he wasn’t able to think of any other lady. He was there with me, through my thick & thin. Advising me,encouragin me, scolding me, supporting me. Actually he was a package of friend, teacher, family and god.
When he saw me alone; All alone. He tried to pacify me, gimme strength, make me bold enough to face any situation,to the maximum he could. Gave me a feeling that I have a friend in him. ALWAYS!! COME WHAT MAY!!
And when he saw that I was struggling to get over my problems, he knew that I wanted a support. A helping hand. But it has to be some one whom he could trust. Whom he could think will take care of me.
He told me ” Buddy, I know that you’re going through a phase in your life where you have to have a companion. A person who will not exploit your present situation, who will not take you for granted, who wil love the way you love him. I want you to have the most trust worthy person in the whole world. You’re life is so presious. I value you a lot. To offer you, I have got nothing but my LIFE. You’re completly aware about my past, how much I was in love with her. I am not able to accept any other woman in her place. But I cant afford to risk your life and give you to a person who might not knwo your value, who might take you for granted, who might might not love you and will come to you for any intension like money,sex etc. You never know. But I Love you. Not as my girl friend. But as my everything. You were the only one who was there to support me when I was left alone. You’re the only one with whom am comfy, with whom I can share all my views. My day wont be complete if I don’t talk to you for a single day. I would like to take care of you my whole life. But there is no compulsions”
Friends, that were some beautiful sentence that I’ve every heard in my life. Some words whcih touched me like anything. I’m not in love with him. Neither is he. But we do care for each other.
In this era, where people try to get rid off burdens & headaches,I saw a MAN who was ready to share my tears. I have seen many relations were people just use others for their personal benefits. Some want SEX, others want CASH, Some others want POWER. He was a GENLTLEMAN who is knows to respect every lady, who dont use any one for his benefit. He is a MAN. Thanks my Friend!!
